One Step Toward a More Conscious Relationship

Here’s one step you can take toward having a more conscious relationship:

When you speak to your partner, avoid words like “you always...,” “you never....” or “every time....”

These phrases piss us off and activate our defenses. We feel judged and unseen.

How bout all the times they haven’t let you down, or HAVE done that thing you wanted?

Replace the always never every time absolutes with words like “sometimes,” or better, keep the focus on the present by saying, “When you just______, I felt _______.”

We need to feel appreciated for the times we got it right. And held accountable just for the now.